NC Family Policy Council - Rebuttal to Anonymous for Life

Any Birth parent who has relinquished a child/children with the expectation that these children would be adopted need to be made aware that some relinquished children are never adopted; therefore their original birth certificates will NEVER be sealed by the State.

In a standard relinquishment, signed at minimum amount of hours/days following the birth of the child, the birth parent according to DSS-1804:

7. That I understand that when the adoption is final, all of my rights and duties with respect to the minor will be extinguished and all other aspects of my legal relationship with the minor child will be terminated;

9. That I hereby waive notice of any proceeding for adoption;

And last of all:
15 That I understand unless revoked in accordance with G.S. 48-3-706 or #13 above, my Relinquishment is final and irrevocable except under the circumstances set forth in G.S. 48-3-707.


When prospective adoptive parents take a child home, the clock starts ticking for the 7 Day period required by NC law before the adoption may be finalized in court.

Until that court hearing, neither adoption records nor the original birth certificate is sealed.

If a relinquished child goes into foster care or an institution, or dies before an adoption is finalized, the original birth certificate will not be sealed.

It stands to reason that once the relinquishment is signed, the birth parent is "as if dead," because regardless of what happens to the child, she's signed away her right to be notified.

Thus, any alleged "promise of confidentiality" is meaningless. In signing the document that she hoped would assure her child of an adoptive placement, she became persona non grata (a person who for some reason is not wanted or welcome).

Given these facts, how can any relinquishing parent be assured of "confidentiality"?